All humans have an inner urge to be connected - to living and even non-living things. And this urge makes us get into relationships. However silly it might sound, we do have relationships with our homes, cars, watches and other things, the most important of which is money. That is why we always try to be in control of these things, take care and cherish them.
On a more personal level, we also have relationships with other people – be it our spouse, children, parents, friends or colleagues. And similar to the relationships with inanimate things, we always want to be in control and take care of the other person, while cherishing their company.
The complexities and challenges faced by personal relationships is what make humans distinct from other species.
It is human tendency to get deeper and deeper into relationships and get attached to other people. The base root of all relationships is love – literally. However, the love that makes relationships also breaks them. Commonly, too much love for a particular person leads to attachment and the urge to have total control over the other person. And human nature also makes one expect the same from that other person.
Love in the truest sense means taking the minimum and giving the maximum. But when this equation becomes imbalanced – giving the maximum and taking (expecting) the maximum as well, problems start cropping up. We start antagonizing the same person whom we had loved so much. What a paradox!
So, how do we maintain excellent long-term relationships with our near and dear ones?
Just need to follow one simple mantra – accept the people we love, as they are and not try to control or change them. We have to understand that everyone is unique and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.
These things might sound simple and clichéd to some people. But just think about it. Problems arise in relationships only because we forget this fact from time to time.
Most of us are selfish in most parts of our lives. However, when it comes to relationships, we ought to be selfless. (Note: This does not apply to business relationships or those in which money is involved!)
Warm regards,
Team Ashni
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- Ashni - An Initiative
- "Ashni" \a-sh-ni\ is a word of Sanskrit origin and means "Flash of Light". Ashni is an initiative started by a small group of people who believe that the world can be a better place to live, who believe in the power of good and who believe that humans have the potential to achieve great things and grow. Just like a flash of light dispels darkness, Ashni will endeavor to enlighten and educate people with interesting, inspiring and motivating themes, through the medium of blogs. This is an initiative in which there is no leader, no follower and no ulterior motive. Our vision for Ashni is that it would finally form a strong community of people who are independent, empowered, full of values and in total control of their lives - ready to bring about a positive transformation in themselves, others and the world at large. Anyone who is a part of Ashni would only have to spare two to three minutes of their time to read the blog and try their best to implement the learning into their lives. Then, just experience the difference and spread the light!
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